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7 Things You Must Remember To Do When Planning Your Wedding

Being engaged is a wonderful time – and the prospect of planning your wedding is exciting. But never in your wildest dreams did you imagine there was so much to think about. What with budgets, venues, guest lists, gift lists, etc, it’s easy to forget some of the important stuff. So I’ve put together 7 things that couples often forget about.

1. Wedding Insurance

One thing that is easy to overlook is the importance of wedding insurance. Why would you need it? After all, with all your careful planning, what could possibly go wrong?

Well, here in the UK, only a few months ago, a very large wedding venue went into liquidation. Some couples, who were only weeks away from their wedding day lost as much as £8000.

Although it would still have been very upsetting to say the least, with wedding insurance they would at least have got their money back.

Wedding insurance will also cover you for :

  • loss or damage to your wedding gifts
  • damage to your wedding dress
  • vendors or suppliers letting you down
  • vendors or suppliers going out of business
  • injuries to any of your guests

2. Gifts for wedding party

Of course it’s traditional for a bride to give a gift to her maid of honour, her bridesmaids, and her flower girls. These gifts are often jewellery which can be worn during the wedding. If you are planning to give to give jewellery, then you could make it extra special by having it personalised with their name or initial.

And not forgetting the friends who helped to bring this day together – a small gift will show your appreciation for the time and support they gave you.

3. Thanking your parents

Don’t forget  your parents and your future in-laws deserve a really big thank you. This is an emotional day for them as well, as they watch their children marry and begin a new life.
Thank your parents for the love and support they have shown you throughout the years, and for making you who you are today, and thank your new in-laws for raising such a wonderful son and for welcoming you into their family.

4. Prepare tips in advance

There are some people who you will want to tip for the contribution they made on your wedding day. So prepare these in envelopes in advance. This way you, or your maid can just hand them out at the appropriate times. It’s quite usual to tip the following people:

  • waiting staff
  • flower arranger
  • DJ
  • photographer
  • your hairdresser
  • your make-up artist

5. List of songs

There are of course going to be songs that are really special to you and your new husband. And you absolutely have to have them played at your wedding. But there are sure to be songs that for one reason or another, you absolutely detest.

So not only should you give your DJ a list of what you would like him to play ( including the one you have chosen for your first dance together as man and wife ) he needs to know which songs you would rather he didn’t play.

6. Passports, visas, inoculations

Whether you need passports, visas, or inoculations depends of course on the honeymoon destination you have chosen. Remember the name on your travel documents needs to match the name on your passport.

So if you booked your honeymoon in your maiden name, then postpone changing your passport until after the honeymoon.

7. At the end of the day

Sadly your perfect wedding day has to come to an end. So appoint a trusted friend to be in charge of any presents and cards that have been brought to the reception. And keep them and your guest book safe until you return.

Make sure someone is happy to return any items that have been hired, like suits, and cake knife and stand. Then when you get in the car to leave and you look back and see everyone waving you off, you know someone is taking care of these little things for you.

All that remains is for you to have a fabulous honeymoon.

7 Frequently Asked Questions About Second Weddings

If you are planning your wedding, and one or even both of you have been married before, then you’ll know that second weddings are a little bit different to plan. But that doesn’t mean a second wedding is any less special than a first. Oh no! There are no rules that say you should have a low key wedding – take a look at these 7 most frequently asked questions about second weddings

1. How should we announce our forthcoming wedding?

If you or your husband-to-be have any children from previous relationships, then they should be the first to hear your news. Chances are they won’t be surprised to hear you are planning to marry, but even so, they may have to adjust to some changes when your two families become one.

Then you can tell parents, relatives, and friends. You might want to do this at a family get-together if you would prefer to tell close relatives next, or have an engagement party where you can announce your news to everyone at the same time.

2. Should we invite our ex partners?

If you have or your husband-to-be have very young children, then having their other parent at your wedding could help them through what might be a confusing day for them. It will allow them to see that although you are about to have a new life partner, their other parent is still an important part of their life.

3. How do we involve our children?

Children need to be involved in your wedding right from the start. Even the youngest children can help with some of the preparations, like making invitations and table decorations etc. When it comes to the actual wedding day itself, the children need to feel important and not feel left out.

There are lots of roles they can play, obviously depending on age. I’m thinking when it comes to the older girls, matron of honour or bridesmaids, and younger ones could be flower girls. All very important jobs! And there are plenty of ways to involve the boys as well – page boys, ushers, ring-bearer, and every groom needs a best man.

4. Who pays for a second wedding?

Normally in second marriages, the bride and groom pay for their own wedding. It doesn’t seem fair to ask parents who may have already paid for your first wedding, to stump up again. But that’s not to say, if family members or friends offer to pay for something – like your wedding cake for instance, or a wedding car or something similar then of course that is fine.

5.  Should we have a gift list?

This is entirely up to you. Chances are you already have a home and don’t need any more household items, in which case you may like to tell your guests that you are not expecting gifts. But people do like to celebrate a marriage by giving the couple a gift, so if guests wish to do this, (only if they ask) then it’s probably a good idea to have some ideas up your sleeve.

6.  What should I wear?

There really are no rules. It’s your wedding, so what you wear is up to you. If you missed out the first time round and didn’t have the long white gown, there’s no reason why you can’t wear one this time.

But most 2nd weddings tend to be less formal, so think about the style of your wedding when choosing your outfit. Is it a big, lavish affair, or a small, more intimate gathering? Are you marrying in a church, or are you planning to have a civil ceremony in a registrar’s office?

But whatever you choose to wear on your wedding day, the important thing is that you love it, that you feel good in it, and you know your husband-to-be is going to love it too.

7. Should we take kids on honeymoon?

Opinions seem to be divided on this one. Some couples think that a honeymoon is a special time for newlyweds. It’s your first holiday together as man and wife, and a time when you should share some time alone.

But others feel that having your children along on your honeymoon is a great time for the two families to blend and build some memories.

7 Great Places To Get Married In Ireland

Ireland has long been known for lush green countryside, its great hospitality, and as a place with a friendly welcome for everyone. Not forgetting of course it’s myths and legends. But it can also boast some of Europe’s most beautiful hotels. All this together makes Ireland a wonderful choice for a wedding. So if you think you would like to marry in Ireland, take a look at these 7 hotels, and see if any of them are right for you.

1. Clontarf Castle, Dublin

The location of this magnificent 12th century castle hotel makes it a perfect venue for a fairytale wedding. The castle is surrounded by some of Ireland’s finest countryside, yet is only 5 miles from Dublin airport, 2 miles from the city centre, and just a short walk from the sea.

Staff here can cater for up to 450 guests, but are just as happy to host a small more intimate wedding, including civil ceremonies. Various packages are available and a typical wedding package, including reception in the great hall would include:

  • Red carpet welcome and champagne on arrival
  • Personalised place cards, table plan, menus, cake stand, flowers, and top table display
  • 4 poster bed in the luxurious bridal suite
  • Champagne breakfast the following morning in your suite
  • Complimentary parking and reduced hotel room rates for your guests

2. Ballygally Castle, Co. Antrim

This hotel lies along the beautiful Antrim coast, on the beach, not far from the famous Giant’s Causeway, and the Glens of Antrim, and just 24 miles from Belfast. Weddings here in this 17th century castle offer all the elegance and charm you could ever wish for.

Make time to check out the history of the castle, which dates back to 1625, and the stories of the Lady Isabella, the friendly resident ghost who wanders the corridors.

Here at the Ballygally Castle your wedding will be overseen from start to finish by your own personal member of the management team. And at the end of a perfect day, retire to the bridal suite, and enjoy breakfast the following morning in your suite as you enjoy views over Ballygally Bay.

The backdrop of the sea, the rugged cliffs and mountains and views of Scotland in the distance make this hotel a wedding photographer’s dream.

3. Sneem Hotel, Co. Kerry

The location of the Sneem hotel make this a perfect choice for a wedding and honeymoon all rolled into one. Nestled in Golden’s Cove, and boasting 22 acres of beautiful gardens this hotel is a magical place to begin your new life together.

Here at the Sneem hotel you can be sure of a perfect wedding day –  where nothing is too much trouble for the staff who will always make certain you have a wedding that exceeds all your expectations.

But the location of this hotel is what makes a wedding at the Sneem extra special. And this includes the world famous Ring Of Kerry. Travelling around this circular route will take you through villages and bustling market towns and allow you to discover some of the most beautiful beaches and bays in Europe.

4. Kildare Spa Hotel and Country Club, Co. Kildare

Known affectionately as ‘The K Club’, this romantic country house is set in 550 acres of beautiful green countryside on the banks of the River Liffey.. From the moment you arrive you will be in the capable hands of a dedicated wedding planner who will make certain you have the fairytale wedding of your dreams.

This hotel has a choice of banqueting suites for your wedding dinner, where you will be served food prepared by award winning chefs. And staff and management are happy to cater for small intimate weddings of less than 20 guests right up to large formal affairs with up to 350 guests.

There will be a resident make-up artist on hand on the morning of your wedding to make sure your make-up lasts all day, and you look your best from start to finish on your special day.

5. The Aherlow House Hotel, Co. Tipperary

One of Tipperary’s finest hotels, standing adjacent to the Glen of Aherlow National Park is the Aherlow House Hotel. Thanks to it’s location which is classed as an area of outstanding beauty, this hotel has become known as ‘a jewel in the pine forest’, and is now one of Southern Ireland’s most popular wedding venues. You can be sure your wedding day here at the Aherlow hotel will be the day you have always dreamed it would be. A wedding package here would include:

  • A red carpet welcome, with champagne and orange juice and tea and coffee
  • Services of a dedicated wedding coordinator
  • A 5 course meal with wine following your wedding – chosen by you and prepared by top chefs
  • An evening reception supper to end your day
  • Your wedding night in the luxurious bridal suite
  • Champagne breakfast served in your suite the following morning
  • Complimentary accommodation for both sets of parents in one of the hotel’s luxurious bedrooms

6. Summerhill House Hotel, Co. Wicklow

The Summerhill Hotel has become one of Ireland’s most popular venues for Civil Ceremonies. One venue for your civil ceremony and your reception means a complete wedding package in one place, so no travelling for you and your guests during your wedding day.

But if you prefer a traditional church wedding, then there are several churches nearby. I think this hotel has one of the most comprehensive website I have come across during the time I have been researching this post.

So if you are thinking of tying the knot in Ireland, I urge you to take a look – especially be sure to read their ‘15 great reasons to get married at the Summerhill House Hotel’.

7. Waterford Castle Hotel, Co. Waterford

If you have always dreamed of getting married in a traditional Irish castle, then the legendary 16th century Waterford Castle Hotel may be the venue for you. Imagine a traditional castle, on an island, exclusively yours for your wedding celebrations.

The castle can cater for up to 120 guests, and larger parties can use a marquee in the castle grounds. Each wedding is individually organised by an experienced wedding coordinator to your wishes. Special offers and reduced rates apply for mid-week weddings.

All this makes the Waterford Castle Hotel a very attractive venue, whether you are planning a blessing, a civil ceremony or a more traditional wedding.