7 Frequently Asked Questions About Gift Lists

When I was planning my wedding with my husband-to-be, there were a lot of things I wasn’t sure about, especially when it came to the subject of a gift list.

Just in case you are struggling with a gift list too, here are 7 frequently asked questions to help you out.

1. Should We Prepare a Gift List?

Well this is a difficult one. It really is a case of personal choice. Although some would say it is bad etiquette, many people now find it perfectly acceptable.

Time was when invited guests would ask the advice of the bride’s parents as to what gift to buy. But of course times have changed and unless your wedding is extremely formal, a gift list is probably the way to go.

2. What Is The Best Way To Plan A Gift List?

Department stores are a good place to start. Most of the larger stores have a dedicated assistant who will help you plan your gift list, making sure you have gifts at all different price points.

They will also be able to answer any questions you may have about delivery of the gifts etc.

3. Will People Feel Obliged To Buy Us A Gift?

I think is the short answer here is no. Guests always enjoy buying a gift for the bride and groom.

But these days many couples have lived together before they marry and already have a home together, so a gift list ensures they can buy you a gift that you really will appreciate.

4. Should We Include Details Of A Gift List In With The Invitations?

This again depends on how you feel about it. It’s worth bearing in mind that some of your elderly guests may be a bit more traditional and not be able to access a gift list on line.

So in these cases you may like to use your discretion and include a short gift list put together just for these people.

5. Is It Rude To Ask For Money?

Once again, I don’t think so. Most friends and family members would be happy to donate a gift of money towards a large present that you cannot buy for yourselves.

This could be something like a new kitchen or a new sofa. Then you could invite the people that contributed towards it to a dinner party and show off the gift they bought you.

What we did was offer people the chance to give us a money gift. With the pooled money we bought some garden furniture and lights.

And since then we have had so many lovely nights with our friends enjoying the gift they contributed towards.

6. What If We Really Don’t Want Wedding Gifts?

If you really have everything you need in your home and don’t require any wedding gifts, you need to make this clear in your invitations.

You should include a short note explaining that as you have been living together for any length of time, the fact that they are sharing your special day with you is all you need.

But mention that perhaps people may like to make a contribution to your favourite charity, whichever one that may be.

7. What If I’m Still Uncomfortable About A Gift List?

If you are not happy about the whole gift list thing, then don’t let it spoil your planning fun. Why not create a web site containing all the information about your wedding?

You can use this to give directions to the church and the reception venue, timings, transport, and the gift list. This way the gift list is just casually mentioned.

Make sure the web site address is printed on your invitations, and if people should ask about gifts refer them to the web site.

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