Compiling The Guest List

When it comes to compiling the guest list, it can seem like a really daunting task. How do you decide who gets an invite and who doesn’t? And unless you’ve got a bottomless pit of money, there is obviously going to be a limit to the number of guests you can have, so there may well be some disappointed friends and acquaintances.

 So needless to say, a lot of thought and consideration has to go into this part of your wedding planning. So I’ve put together a list of a few things you may find useful as you begin this mammoth task.

How Many Guests Should You Invite?

Well of course this depends on your budget. Once you know how many people your venue can accommodate, how much you have to spend on catering, and you have negotiated a price per head with the caterers, then you can come up with a number.

Who Compiles The Guest List?

You and your husband-to-be, plus both sets of parents should all work together to compile the guest list. It’s always a good idea to begin with all parties writing a list of people they would like to invite, with everyone bearing in mind there may have to be compromises. The lists can then be compiled and tweaked as necessary, in the hope that you can amicably arrive at the final guest list.

As the bridal couple, it would seem fair that you should have around 50% of the invitations, with the remainder split between parents and future in-laws.

Must We Invite Children?

This is a question that often crops up with couples during their wedding planning. For some couples a wedding just wouldn’t be complete without the fun and laughter of the children, while those who want a more formal affair may decide not to invite children.

You might find that some parents will decline your invitation if it doesn’t include their children, while others would prefer not to bring their children.

But whatever you decide, be sure to make it clear on the invitations.

Should We Invite Work Colleagues?

Once again, there is no clear cut answer. If there is a special co-worker that you spend time with outside of work, then you may want to invite them. But, imagine for instance, if you work in a large office with say 20 or 30 people, and perhaps your other half the same, you couldn’t invite them all.

Who gets left out? Very tricky. Use your spaces for the people that are really special in your life.

Should Singles Be Given a Plus 1?

This is always a difficult one, and once again there doesn’t seem to be any right or wrong answer. You might feel that a single guest, especially one who is elderly or shy would be uncomfortable if they couldn’t bring a guest.

But on the other hand, if you allow a guest to simply bring a friend, it probably means that someone you may have never met is taking a space, and someone you would like to invite has had to be overlooked.

But a wedding reception is all about fun, and you would want everyone to always remember what a great time they had. So it’s nice to make certain no guest spends the evening sitting alone, or even worse, sat on a table with other singles.

Remember, everyone you invite to your wedding should be there because you have chosen them to celebrate this very special day with you. And you know these people will always be a part of your future, and will always be there for you.


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